Symbols for Goals

Symbols for Goals

I used to set New Years Resolutions  (yes I’m aware it’s May) like a mad woman. I really meant business. But somewhere along the line it stopped working for me. So I stopped setting them. Makes sense, right?! I love goals and I love resolving to do something that improves my life. What I have done most recently is to set myself “goals” but for much shorter periods of time.

I honestly thought I would never set “New Years Resolutions” again. BUT I had a timely conversation with my mom right before 2016 ended. She shared with me her process for “setting goals”. It’s quite a bit different than what I have heard most people do. She chooses 4 symbols, one for each season of the year to focus on. Each symbol has meaning to her and she uses it to visualize those things she wants to create in her life.

I love this idea! I knew that I wanted to adapt it for myself though so here is what I did (in January  btw… even though I’m just sharing this now). Part of what I really love about this is that it allows the Universe to do it’s thang but let’s me have a focus for what I need right now.

Step One:

The process starts by thinking of all the words that you want for this year to be. Ever with the #moreismore attitude about life I created a pretty lengthy list. Here are just a few of the words I came up with:

Energy

Progress

Thrive

Balance

Peace

Accord

Good Vibes

Revitalized

Believe

Understand

Accept

Trust

Healing

Creation

Transformation

Step Two:

Then I began to look up symbols for those words. You don’t have to choose something that someone has already assigned meaning to but it helped me get started. I drew out a bunch of symbols and let myself tune out and tune in to what I need this year.

Step Three:

After I spent some time doodling symbols I was able to clearly see which ones I wanted to use for my year ahead. I took a plain piece of printer paper and created 4 quadrants to draw my symbols.

Step Four:

Lastly, I hung it up where I can see it everyday!

This process isn’t quite like setting New Years Resolutions I suppose, but that’s probably why it’s working for me at this point in my life. I’m excited to focus on just a few things that make a huge impact on everything else. I’m already starting to think about what those symbols (and the meanings behind them) mean to my life. I know that they mean a lot more when paired with actionable items. The more that I focus on those symbols the more that I can see clearly what I need to do for those things to manifest in my life. This feels like a much more natural way to setup my year for success. That paired with my natural desire to set goals all year long are working for me now!

Update:

My first season’s symbol was a sun, chosen to mean ENERGY for me. I have to say that I do think it’s worked to help me focus on things that I can do to improve my energy. Slowly I added new habits to help me with this. Here are some of the things I did:

  • Created a mantra that I use often “My body and mind are well rested and ready to rock this day!”
  • Focused on drinking more water every day
  • Joined a gym
  • Started using a fitbit again to track my steps
  • I made a concerted effort to focus on positive energy, instead of negative

New Symbol/Goal:

Now that the first quarter of 2017 is a bit in the past, I can say that using a symbol for my goal and having a finite time (the first three months of the year) really worked for me! This quarter (April-June) my focus is on Peace. Here are some of the things I will focus on throughout the quarter:

  • Thinking only positive thoughts – pushing out the negative
  • Allowing other people to have their wars, but not let them be mine
  • Creating peace in my home by continually decluttering
  • Teaching peace to my daughters through example
  • Yoga and meditation practice regularly
  • Sending peace to others through peaceful thoughts

I’m hoping this quarter goes as well as it did last quarter!

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Happy Mother’s Day

Almost 3 years ago exactly (thanks Facebook memories), I quit working to stay home with my then only child who was 1 year old. Many people expressed joy that I would be able to do this. Then there were others who wanted to “warn” me of how I would feel. Suffocated, bored, etc. These were just a few ways people told me that I would feel about being a stay at home mother (SAHM). I can 100% say at this point that they were/are wrong. For me, being home with my kids (now two of them) has been an amazing journey. It was absolutely the right choice for me and my family. I loved working and plan on going back at some point.

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 Right now I focus all of my time and energy on snuggling up my two girls tight while also:

  • Reading library book after library book
  • Playing “princess family”
  • Singing songs
  • Having dance parties to Trolls music
  • Teaching life lessons
  • Kissing boo boos.

And what don’t I do? I don’t ever feel suffocated or bored or whatever else they said I would feel.

As many people do in situations such as these, they simply want you to feel their pain. These people want– no, they desperately need to overlay their emotions and feelings onto your soul. It isn’t that they aren’t trying to drag you down. No, they simply don’t know how to express the pain they feel in their position. The best thing you can do is to not let their negative energy affect you while at the same time having sympathy for their pain. Everyone has different strengths and weaknesses. Let’s all do our best not to throw the worst part of ourselves at other people. Maybe instead we should focus on our best selves and share that loud and proud.

All of this to say that we should be lifting up our fellow mothers. Encouraging each to be who they are and do what is best for them. We all have different beliefs, strengths, desires and goals. Let’s help all the mamas out there to be who they want to be and do what they want to do.

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 Happy Mother’s day to every mother, pseudo mother, other mother, and woman who wants to be a mother. May you each enjoy this day and be buoyed up in the joy that is motherhood.

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Get back up again

I get knocked down…

And I get back up again. Who has Chumbawamba stuck in their head now? I do. I have had a hell of a time lately. And by lately I mean the last year. It’s really hard when you KNOW the things that will improve your mind set. Exercising, eating right, getting out of the house, showering, self love in general–all of these things help, and I know it. So why can’t I do anything? Why can’t I write here regularly when I know this outlet leads to clarity in my heart? I don’t know. But all I can do is keep getting back up. Every. Single. Time.

With that, I’m not going to make any grand promises to myself about posting regularly. But I’m hoping as I heal I will be here more often. Creating again, sharing again, being myself again. Giving myself some self love. For now, I have no shame in faking it until I make it. I will do my best to put a smile on my face each and every day not only for my daughter’s but also for my own sake. Hopefully sooner than later I will wake up and that smile won’t be fake. Until then, I’m holding on. It really is true that it doesn’t matter if you fall, what matters is how you get back up. And IF you get back up. Keep falling? Keep getting back up.

This has been an immensely humbling and incredibly exhausting year for me. That being said, I’m so grateful for my life and for my experiences in this life. I have much to be grateful for: I know who I am more than I ever have before. I’m confident in my mama skills like I’ve never been. I have the best non-judgey, real friends ever. And most important I know I can handle anything that is thrown at me.

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Self Care – PPD tip of the week

Don’t lose your medication. Then don’t ignore that you lost your medication for a week. Ha! Ok just kidding, that’s not my tip…. but seriously don’t do that.  It’s not pretty if this happens. I’ve had a rough time since Drea was born but I had no idea how much worse it could possibly get until this happened last week. I didn’t think I could shed so many tears in so little time. I’m not quite ready to fully delve into my PPD issues right now but I know that something needs to change. I’m writing this post for anyone who has PPD but it’s really for me. Because it’s the story of my life right now. Let’s talk about self care!

So here’s the real tip: Take care of yourself !

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Hooray for Self Care!

It is so incredibly important that we take care of ourselves. Self care is truly one of the most important aspects of our lives. Without it you risk not being able to take care of those you love. I know it’s hard, but do it. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant. I didn’t become a mother until I was almost 30 years old. Due to this fact, I had A LOT of time pre-baby where all I had to take care of was myself. I used to be incredible about self-care. I got massages regularly (weekly usually but at least twice a month). I went to get my nails done, hair done, ya know all that good stuff. I spent hours leisurely strolling through clothing stores looking for things that I might like to try on (even though I had way too many clothes). I took my sweet time getting ready to go out. Long showers, baths – whatever I wanted. Life isn’t exactly like that anymore. If you’re a mama to young ones right now I’m sure you understand. Just because I can’t spend as much time doesn’t mean that I can’t do something nice for myself.

Sometimes we need a little reminder that we can’t take care of others unless we are cared for. Our families depend on us to do so many things and it isn’t selfish to take care of yourself, it’s necessary. Ever get sick when you’ve been running yourself ragged? The universe knows that you need a break so it MAKES you take a break. We’ve all been there. Let’s be proactive and take care of ourselves!

Here are some easy self care items that I’ve been making an effort at lately:

  • Spending a little extra time getting ready (remember makeup? 😉
  • Painting my nails
  • Exfoliating my feet
  • Reading a book during nap instead of cleaning
  • Going to exercise (I went to yoga last week for the first time in years!)

I can definitely do better in this realm which is why I’m posting here. The same as we advocate so strongly for our children we need to be advocates for ourselves. Ask for what we need or we won’t get it. I have the most amazingly intuitive and thoughtful husband. He generally sees what I need before I even realize what that thing is. Keep an open line of communication with the people that you love so that they can help you take care of yourself.

Remember – this stage isn’t forever. Thank God, right? Do your best, get through this. Take care of yourself, it’s an important part of healing.

 

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Motherhood is

Motherhood

Motherhood is a crazy thing. It runs the gamut of emotions and on the daily we move from one extreme to another (I mean our kids… but maybe us too!)

Motherhood…

Sometimes it’s silly

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Sometimes it’s exhausting

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Sometimes it’s sweet

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Sometimes it’s confused

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Sometimes it’s grumpy

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Sometimes it’s proud

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Sometimes it’s irritable

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Sometimes it’s content

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Sometimes it’s messy

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Sometimes it’s magical

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None of these pics have been edited, because that’s life right now. But this is what my life has been lately and although it’s not perfect (not even close) it’s mine and I love it.

The longer I’m a mother (it’s only been a whopping 3 years and 3 months-ish) the more that I’m truly grateful to my mom. I wanted to include a pic of her with my girls but she would kill me if I did … sooooo I didn’t 🙂 Give your mothers and “other mothers” lots of love this weekend!

 

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Goal Printable with birds header

Motivational Monday – Goal it up

I absolutely agree with Joe on this one! If your dreams/goals aren’t big enough to just scare you a bit then you aren’t doing it right. But even more important than pulling you from your comfort zone is to be ecstatic about working towards those goals. What is the point of having a goal if not for this purpose?

 

Goal Printable with birds 8x10

 

Downloads: 5X7 printable  8.5×11 printable   8×10 printable

I created three different sizes for this printable. The 5×7 and the 8×10 are standard frame sizes in case you want to frame this. OR if you would like to have the printable take up the entire page you can print it as 8.5×11. If you do the 5×7 or 8×10 size you will need to trim the printable down in size after you’ve printed it. I recommend printing this on a heavy weight card stock for best results.

Enjoy your Monday!

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New Month Resolutions

May Resolutions!

In general I love goals and resolutions. I know I used to set them at the new year when I was a kid and teenager but it’s been a long time since I’ve done that. Don’t get me wrong, I still have goals that I’m working on. I just don’t set them on January 1st. I set them as I finish another goal. Or I set them when life changes and my goals need to change with it. I wouldn’t get anywhere if I only set goals at the beginning of a new year. Also, I used to get super crazy when I didn’t reach a goal.  I need flexibility to get to where I really want to be. When I was younger I had ideas of how things should be. How I should be. If it didn’t go exactly the way I planned I felt like a failure. The honest truth is that things turned out even better when I let life take over.

I have seen a lot of people talk about setting a word or mantra to guide their year these past few years. I quite like that…. Except that I have been a big ‘ol mombie for the last few months since Drea was born. I’m going to see if a word or mantra comes to me down the road but for now, here’s to May resolutions! I will go more into how I set goals and methods I’ve tried that have worked (and a few that haven’t) another time. But for now, here are my goals:

Choose healthy over lazy:

  1. Get to the gym (that I just joined!) 3 times a week.
  2. Eat veggies every time I eat anything else.
  3. Have a filled glass of water with me at all times.

Get back to blogging:

  1. Take time to free write 5 times a week.
  2. Organize blog post ideas
  3. Work on Photo shop skills 2 times a week.

Work on organization:

  1. Clear out all of my clothes that I don’t love.
  2. Pare down kitchen items to only those I love.
  3. Clean out pantry and only keep items we will eat.

For me, I can’t have too many goals at one time. If I do then I don’t end up accomplishing any of them. That’s also a part of why I set goals all year long. I LOVE to have something to strive towards and when I break down my goals into mini actionable items it makes it even easier for me. I’m excited to finally be at the start of feeling like an actual human being again. It’s been a really long year for me. Pregnancy wasn’t kind to me this last go around and I barely slept during most of it. That lead right into a new baby and I think we all know how that goes. It’s still not over, but it’s getting better and for that I’m truly grateful. It’s amazing how even just one good night of sleep gives you a more positive outlook on life.

 

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welcome Drea

It’s been a long time

It has been a really REALLY long time since I’ve posted. And I’ve missed it… a LOT. I probably won’t have much time to post until life stabilizes a bit but I wanted to do a quick  update on where I’ve been and what I’ve been doing!

It all started with selling our house, yay! I loved that house oh so much, I did. But here’s the thing, it was just not the right house for the stage our family is in right now. Three stories and two sets of stairs was rough when I had just one kiddo. I can’t even imagine what I would do now. Especially since the kitchen and living space were on the mid level of the home. Anyhow, we sold the house and had to make quite a few requested repairs. During that process we had to find a home to rent. My hubby fell in love with a neighborhood so we knew where we were going to rent and indeed that’s where we are at. I am already feeling renters remorse due to a few issues in the home and the fact that I can’t decorate like I would my own home. I will talk more about that another time.

Then the next thing I knew it was holidays one after the other! We moved in and Thanksgiving was right around the corner, then of course Christmas, New Years…. all that fun stuff.

Most exciting of all our sweet Drea made her appearance on January 12th! That story will of course be coming soon as well. It’s been 3 weeks and I’m super exhausted but so in love with this new tiny human that we created. I’m very grateful to have my mom here to help me transition through this newborn phase as this has been a bit rough (although better out than in, the pregnancy itself was more exhausting than Drea is!).

I will be taking a break for awhile until the newborn fog has lifted and then I will gradually start back in because it is so fun to have my thoughts recorded and it helps my productivity level as well.

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when and why I don't always DIY

When (and why)I don’t always DIY

As I’ve mentioned, we are preparing our house to sell right now and there is A LOT to do. If you’ve ever sold a house you know how much there is to do that you just didn’t notice. Over time you get blinders to those annoying little things that are a part of your home. Along with these little things we also just had a big monsoon which caused some roof problems. Agh! Part of why I’ve been MIA is because of the roof problems. Oh and there is also the pregnancy that is keeping me down low, and of course preparing this house to sell during the HOT Arizona summer…. Enough rambling and back to the reason for the blog post. I LOVE to DIY… or at least try my hand at it. That much should be obvious. So why would I NOT want to DIY something? There are a few good reasons not to DIY and here are some of the things that I am not going to be DIYing for the preparation of this house.

I have a long list of things that need to get done around here, including:

  • Small plumbing, such as tightening some small leaks, etc.
  • Filling screw holes
  • Cleaning
  • Painting the stairways
  • Filling the hole from the dog door to the patio
  • Deep cleaning the carpet
  • THE ROOF – ha!
  • Re-carpeting the master bedroom
  • Purging soooo much stuff
  • Reorganizing furniture

What we will be DIYing:

  • Getting rid of all the things
  • Cleaning and cleaning some more
  • Moving light furniture and styling with my realtor
  • Brandon will be moving heavier pieces of furniture that we don’t want in the house during the sale process
  • I’ve filled some of the screw holes already… I will get into that more in what I won’t be DIYing

What we will not be DIYing:

  • Plumbing…. I have actually tackled some plumbing fixes before, but seeing as I’m pregnant I don’t think I’m gonna be getting on the ground for fear that I won’t be able to get up!
  • Filling screw holes that require a step stool or ladder. Another thing that I could normally do, but I’m not stable to begin with and being pregnant I’m even less so
  • Deep cleaning the carpets. Chemicals upon chemicals – no thanks
  • Painting – I may actually do a few small areas that need touch up if they don’t require a step stool but if it does I’m out and for large surfaces I’m also out.
  • Recarpeting is something that I’ve never tried so I’m not gonna try at this juncture. 
  • We are getting our roof fixed, yay!

 

Some of these things are hard for me to pay someone else to do when I know that usually I can tackle a lot of these things. I have had to take a deep breath and be ok with not being able to do it all. The stuff we are doing is already a lot! We are up to seven nine SUV loads that we have brought to Goodwill! It’s amazing how much we have been able to get rid of. It has felt really good to unload a lot of stuff, and it’s even better seeing clear spaces in my home.  I’ve been really grateful to have some amazing friends and family who have helped me out and I know that without their help (and some professionals in the near future!) I couldn’t do this. In the beginning I was thinking that I could do it all on my own. It only took me a minute to realize that was ludicrous. Don’t be too hard on yourselves and be honest when you can’t (or maybe even don’t want to) do it yourself. 

 

 

20 weeks

Dear Future Baby – 20 weeks, halfway there!

How far along: 20 weeks

Gender guess: Boy is still my guess, girl is still Brandon’s guess… it’s not too long until we know!

How I’m feeling: It’s been getting harder and harder to get comfortable at night and thus I haven’t been sleeping much. I’m also super exhausted due to working on my home in preparations for putting it up for sale.

Highlight this week: The highlight of the week coincided with the worst day of the week, ha! Last Wednesday I was really ill and ended up going to see one of my midwives to ensure that the baby was ok and I was super stressed… but then after I got home from that he/she kicked! The baby has been kicking up a storm ever since. I’m loving those little kicks and it comforts me so much.

Miss anything: I miss being able to eat without everything sounding disgusting. I love me some food and lately I haven’t been enjoying eating at all.

Movement: As mentioned above, yes! I am so sooo excited for this.

Cravings: Nope. I have basically been forcing food down my throat for the baby but nothing sounds appetizing lately.

Looking forward to: The gender reveal!! It’s coming up quick and I’ve been working out the details of the whole party. I will put together some of the ideas I have and then I’m sure I will have a bunch of photos after the party!

What McKenna says about the baby: McKenna has been watching more TV lately than I would like to admit and her favorite is Doc McStuffins. Due to this she listens to your heartbeat every day and says that it sounds good!

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Dear future baby,

It almost doesn’t seem real that we will have another little baby in our arms in just a few short months. We are so excited to meet you and to hold you in our arms. Your sister is beyond thrilled to have someone to help take care of.

Thank you for comforting me with your little baby kicks and letting me know that you are alright. I want to help you grow healthy and strong little one!

Love, your future Mama

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