Symbols for Goals

Symbols for Goals

I used to set New Years Resolutions  (yes I’m aware it’s May) like a mad woman. I really meant business. But somewhere along the line it stopped working for me. So I stopped setting them. Makes sense, right?! I love goals and I love resolving to do something that improves my life. What I have done most recently is to set myself “goals” but for much shorter periods of time.

I honestly thought I would never set “New Years Resolutions” again. BUT I had a timely conversation with my mom right before 2016 ended. She shared with me her process for “setting goals”. It’s quite a bit different than what I have heard most people do. She chooses 4 symbols, one for each season of the year to focus on. Each symbol has meaning to her and she uses it to visualize those things she wants to create in her life.

I love this idea! I knew that I wanted to adapt it for myself though so here is what I did (in January  btw… even though I’m just sharing this now). Part of what I really love about this is that it allows the Universe to do it’s thang but let’s me have a focus for what I need right now.

Step One:

The process starts by thinking of all the words that you want for this year to be. Ever with the #moreismore attitude about life I created a pretty lengthy list. Here are just a few of the words I came up with:

Energy

Progress

Thrive

Balance

Peace

Accord

Good Vibes

Revitalized

Believe

Understand

Accept

Trust

Healing

Creation

Transformation

Step Two:

Then I began to look up symbols for those words. You don’t have to choose something that someone has already assigned meaning to but it helped me get started. I drew out a bunch of symbols and let myself tune out and tune in to what I need this year.

Step Three:

After I spent some time doodling symbols I was able to clearly see which ones I wanted to use for my year ahead. I took a plain piece of printer paper and created 4 quadrants to draw my symbols.

Step Four:

Lastly, I hung it up where I can see it everyday!

This process isn’t quite like setting New Years Resolutions I suppose, but that’s probably why it’s working for me at this point in my life. I’m excited to focus on just a few things that make a huge impact on everything else. I’m already starting to think about what those symbols (and the meanings behind them) mean to my life. I know that they mean a lot more when paired with actionable items. The more that I focus on those symbols the more that I can see clearly what I need to do for those things to manifest in my life. This feels like a much more natural way to setup my year for success. That paired with my natural desire to set goals all year long are working for me now!

Update:

My first season’s symbol was a sun, chosen to mean ENERGY for me. I have to say that I do think it’s worked to help me focus on things that I can do to improve my energy. Slowly I added new habits to help me with this. Here are some of the things I did:

  • Created a mantra that I use often “My body and mind are well rested and ready to rock this day!”
  • Focused on drinking more water every day
  • Joined a gym
  • Started using a fitbit again to track my steps
  • I made a concerted effort to focus on positive energy, instead of negative

New Symbol/Goal:

Now that the first quarter of 2017 is a bit in the past, I can say that using a symbol for my goal and having a finite time (the first three months of the year) really worked for me! This quarter (April-June) my focus is on Peace. Here are some of the things I will focus on throughout the quarter:

  • Thinking only positive thoughts – pushing out the negative
  • Allowing other people to have their wars, but not let them be mine
  • Creating peace in my home by continually decluttering
  • Teaching peace to my daughters through example
  • Yoga and meditation practice regularly
  • Sending peace to others through peaceful thoughts

I’m hoping this quarter goes as well as it did last quarter!

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Happy Mother’s Day

Almost 3 years ago exactly (thanks Facebook memories), I quit working to stay home with my then only child who was 1 year old. Many people expressed joy that I would be able to do this. Then there were others who wanted to “warn” me of how I would feel. Suffocated, bored, etc. These were just a few ways people told me that I would feel about being a stay at home mother (SAHM). I can 100% say at this point that they were/are wrong. For me, being home with my kids (now two of them) has been an amazing journey. It was absolutely the right choice for me and my family. I loved working and plan on going back at some point.

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 Right now I focus all of my time and energy on snuggling up my two girls tight while also:

  • Reading library book after library book
  • Playing “princess family”
  • Singing songs
  • Having dance parties to Trolls music
  • Teaching life lessons
  • Kissing boo boos.

And what don’t I do? I don’t ever feel suffocated or bored or whatever else they said I would feel.

As many people do in situations such as these, they simply want you to feel their pain. These people want– no, they desperately need to overlay their emotions and feelings onto your soul. It isn’t that they aren’t trying to drag you down. No, they simply don’t know how to express the pain they feel in their position. The best thing you can do is to not let their negative energy affect you while at the same time having sympathy for their pain. Everyone has different strengths and weaknesses. Let’s all do our best not to throw the worst part of ourselves at other people. Maybe instead we should focus on our best selves and share that loud and proud.

All of this to say that we should be lifting up our fellow mothers. Encouraging each to be who they are and do what is best for them. We all have different beliefs, strengths, desires and goals. Let’s help all the mamas out there to be who they want to be and do what they want to do.

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 Happy Mother’s day to every mother, pseudo mother, other mother, and woman who wants to be a mother. May you each enjoy this day and be buoyed up in the joy that is motherhood.

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Three for Thursday – Using my stash, DIY Felt Projects!

I not only love to DIY, I love the materials used to do so. I’m sure my immense love for crafting and DIY materials is sane, right? But it’s important that I actually use them to make beautiful things. After recently moving I’ve been uncovering delightful craft and DIY goodies! It got me thinking that maybe I could share some focused projects based on a particular material. The lucky winner this week? Felt! Felt is so versatile for crafting and DIY. Let’s make some DIY felt projects together!

After I oohed and ahh’ed at my own felt stash I started looking at all of the felt projects I’ve been wanting to accomplish. I narrowed it down to three major groupings: gifts, flowers and holiday decor. I’m really excited to knock some of these out soon!

DIY Felt Projects: Gifts

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Both of these little animals are absolutely adorable! I picked both because I have friends who are particularly fond of each of them (different friends) and I love honoring people’s favorite animals. Heck I got mine tattooed on my left arm! I also like that these are both practical and useful. The panda is a cell phone case and the fox of course is a coffee sleeve.

DIY Felt Projects: Flowers

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These felt flowers (and succulents) are just darling! I love how intricately felt can be formed. They are almost better than the real thing since they don’t die 🙂 I’m not very good at keeping plants alive. Although I’ve had an orchid for almost two months! I’ve been meaning to make some felt flowers for a while now. I think that time has come.

DIY Felt Projects: Holiday Decor

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The holidays are suddenly upon us! Christmas before last I made a ton of felt ornaments for our tree since I had a toddler. I figured that she would get into everything and that I had better make it all safe. She barely touched anything! Now that I’ve got another baby roaming around I’m glad that I put the effort in at that point. I may make a few more ornaments but I’d like to try my hand at some sort of felt garland and maybe a special advent calendar.

What are you going to make out of felt?

 

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Get back up again

I get knocked down…

And I get back up again. Who has Chumbawamba stuck in their head now? I do. I have had a hell of a time lately. And by lately I mean the last year. It’s really hard when you KNOW the things that will improve your mind set. Exercising, eating right, getting out of the house, showering, self love in general–all of these things help, and I know it. So why can’t I do anything? Why can’t I write here regularly when I know this outlet leads to clarity in my heart? I don’t know. But all I can do is keep getting back up. Every. Single. Time.

With that, I’m not going to make any grand promises to myself about posting regularly. But I’m hoping as I heal I will be here more often. Creating again, sharing again, being myself again. Giving myself some self love. For now, I have no shame in faking it until I make it. I will do my best to put a smile on my face each and every day not only for my daughter’s but also for my own sake. Hopefully sooner than later I will wake up and that smile won’t be fake. Until then, I’m holding on. It really is true that it doesn’t matter if you fall, what matters is how you get back up. And IF you get back up. Keep falling? Keep getting back up.

This has been an immensely humbling and incredibly exhausting year for me. That being said, I’m so grateful for my life and for my experiences in this life. I have much to be grateful for: I know who I am more than I ever have before. I’m confident in my mama skills like I’ve never been. I have the best non-judgey, real friends ever. And most important I know I can handle anything that is thrown at me.

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Self Care – PPD tip of the week

Don’t lose your medication. Then don’t ignore that you lost your medication for a week. Ha! Ok just kidding, that’s not my tip…. but seriously don’t do that.  It’s not pretty if this happens. I’ve had a rough time since Drea was born but I had no idea how much worse it could possibly get until this happened last week. I didn’t think I could shed so many tears in so little time. I’m not quite ready to fully delve into my PPD issues right now but I know that something needs to change. I’m writing this post for anyone who has PPD but it’s really for me. Because it’s the story of my life right now. Let’s talk about self care!

So here’s the real tip: Take care of yourself !

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Hooray for Self Care!

It is so incredibly important that we take care of ourselves. Self care is truly one of the most important aspects of our lives. Without it you risk not being able to take care of those you love. I know it’s hard, but do it. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant. I didn’t become a mother until I was almost 30 years old. Due to this fact, I had A LOT of time pre-baby where all I had to take care of was myself. I used to be incredible about self-care. I got massages regularly (weekly usually but at least twice a month). I went to get my nails done, hair done, ya know all that good stuff. I spent hours leisurely strolling through clothing stores looking for things that I might like to try on (even though I had way too many clothes). I took my sweet time getting ready to go out. Long showers, baths – whatever I wanted. Life isn’t exactly like that anymore. If you’re a mama to young ones right now I’m sure you understand. Just because I can’t spend as much time doesn’t mean that I can’t do something nice for myself.

Sometimes we need a little reminder that we can’t take care of others unless we are cared for. Our families depend on us to do so many things and it isn’t selfish to take care of yourself, it’s necessary. Ever get sick when you’ve been running yourself ragged? The universe knows that you need a break so it MAKES you take a break. We’ve all been there. Let’s be proactive and take care of ourselves!

Here are some easy self care items that I’ve been making an effort at lately:

  • Spending a little extra time getting ready (remember makeup? 😉
  • Painting my nails
  • Exfoliating my feet
  • Reading a book during nap instead of cleaning
  • Going to exercise (I went to yoga last week for the first time in years!)

I can definitely do better in this realm which is why I’m posting here. The same as we advocate so strongly for our children we need to be advocates for ourselves. Ask for what we need or we won’t get it. I have the most amazingly intuitive and thoughtful husband. He generally sees what I need before I even realize what that thing is. Keep an open line of communication with the people that you love so that they can help you take care of yourself.

Remember – this stage isn’t forever. Thank God, right? Do your best, get through this. Take care of yourself, it’s an important part of healing.

 

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Motherhood is

Motherhood

Motherhood is a crazy thing. It runs the gamut of emotions and on the daily we move from one extreme to another (I mean our kids… but maybe us too!)

Motherhood…

Sometimes it’s silly

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Sometimes it’s exhausting

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Sometimes it’s sweet

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Sometimes it’s confused

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Sometimes it’s grumpy

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Sometimes it’s proud

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Sometimes it’s irritable

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Sometimes it’s content

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Sometimes it’s messy

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Sometimes it’s magical

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None of these pics have been edited, because that’s life right now. But this is what my life has been lately and although it’s not perfect (not even close) it’s mine and I love it.

The longer I’m a mother (it’s only been a whopping 3 years and 3 months-ish) the more that I’m truly grateful to my mom. I wanted to include a pic of her with my girls but she would kill me if I did … sooooo I didn’t 🙂 Give your mothers and “other mothers” lots of love this weekend!

 

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Three for Thursday - Quality time with McKenna

Three for Thursday – Quality time with McKenna

Thursdays are generally a pretty busy day for us over here. We have some of my nieces over every week and we have a lot of fun! Although it’s amazing it means that I don’t have oodles of time to post. Enter “Three for Thursday”. This series is going to be a day where I focus on a DIY topic that I’ve been meaning to give thought, time and energy to but simply haven’t scheduled that time in. Thursdays are that day now!

This week I’m thinking about what I can do to spend quality time with McKenna. She has been a super trooper since Drea was born (and even before that when I was miserable during the last 4 months of pregnancy). She has also started acting out a bit more. I told someone about a month ago that I had to put McKenna in time out for the first time. Overall, she has always been a good listener and does the things I ask. The most I ever had to do was count to 3. It’s a different story nowadays. People say it’s because she’s three years old now but I think it’s because she needs more attention. I do my very best to give her attention but when Drea is screaming her head off I have to admit that she comes first. SO, all that to say that I started trolling my Pins for a few things that McKenna would enjoy. As I was going through stuff I had pinned to do with her I found a few themes that she enjoys which I think is perfect! Without further adieu here are our Three for Thursday!

 

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Dinosaur DIY’s:

McKenna adores dinosaurs! She also loves crafting (really any DIY) with her mama and pretend play so I figured let’s kill two (errrr three I guess?) birds with one stone! We are gonna have a DIY  dinosaur day next week! I may even see if I can put a couple of dinosaur books on hold at the library to round it out.

 

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Gardening DIY’s:

Lately McKenna has been obsessed with gardening. I got a gardenia plant for my birthday a few months ago and she helps me to water it every. single. day. I guess it’s good because I’m a pretty forgetful person and she often reminds me! Maybe she will be my little DIY gardener. I found a couple of interesting gardening sensory bins we could easily DIY and I figure we’ve been wanting to do more sensory bins so this will be on the agenda next week!

 

Mermaid LoveMermaid Tail  /  Mermaid Peg Dolls

 

Mermaid DIY’s:

Even though she skips through big chunks of The Little Mermaid it may be one of her favorite movies. She loves the idea of mermaids as they seem so magical to her. There are so many fun mermaid DIY activities! The first picture above is an activity that I have been wanting to do for her for almost a year. A year people! I can’t believe I’ve let it get away from me for this long. The mermaid peg dolls I found recently in a search for a mermaid sensory bin. I wanted inexpensive mermaids that we could add. It was a bonus that we could work on designing them together.

 

Life isn’t about pinning. It’s about doing. Pin less, Do more! I will share more after we’ve completed these activities! What are you going to do this fabulous Thursday?

 

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It’s been a long time

It has been a really REALLY long time since I’ve posted. And I’ve missed it… a LOT. I probably won’t have much time to post until life stabilizes a bit but I wanted to do a quick  update on where I’ve been and what I’ve been doing!

It all started with selling our house, yay! I loved that house oh so much, I did. But here’s the thing, it was just not the right house for the stage our family is in right now. Three stories and two sets of stairs was rough when I had just one kiddo. I can’t even imagine what I would do now. Especially since the kitchen and living space were on the mid level of the home. Anyhow, we sold the house and had to make quite a few requested repairs. During that process we had to find a home to rent. My hubby fell in love with a neighborhood so we knew where we were going to rent and indeed that’s where we are at. I am already feeling renters remorse due to a few issues in the home and the fact that I can’t decorate like I would my own home. I will talk more about that another time.

Then the next thing I knew it was holidays one after the other! We moved in and Thanksgiving was right around the corner, then of course Christmas, New Years…. all that fun stuff.

Most exciting of all our sweet Drea made her appearance on January 12th! That story will of course be coming soon as well. It’s been 3 weeks and I’m super exhausted but so in love with this new tiny human that we created. I’m very grateful to have my mom here to help me transition through this newborn phase as this has been a bit rough (although better out than in, the pregnancy itself was more exhausting than Drea is!).

I will be taking a break for awhile until the newborn fog has lifted and then I will gradually start back in because it is so fun to have my thoughts recorded and it helps my productivity level as well.

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Dear Future Baby – 28 weeks

How far along: 28 weeks – pardon the pic… I put a little makeup on but didn’t even touch my hair lol. I’ve been avoiding these posts because I haven’t had the energy to get ready. By the next one I may look like I just got out of bed!

Gender: It’s a girl! I still catch myself saying “we are having another boy… I mean girl.” HA! I was really SO sure that we were having a boy.

How I’m feeling: I’m just starting to get heartburn a lot and I remember this from last time. I’m hoping it doesn’t keep me awake like it did with McKenna. I’m super tired but that might also be due to the packing up a 2,000+ sq ft house and keeping a half dozen or so other “balls” in the air.

Highlight this week: The highlight since the time I last updated here was definitely finding out that we are having another sweet little girl. It feels so good to be able to start giving back clothes that we don’t need (we amassed both girl and boy clothes).

Miss anything: I’ve missed drinking a lot more this time for some reason. I’m not really a big drinker to begin with so it doesn’t make much sense. It might have to do with all of the seasonal cocktails I keep seeing! I’m just gonna have to pin ’em and give them a try next year!

Movement: This little girl is definitely active. It makes me wonder what kind of personality she will have and I can’t wait to see her moves on the outside! I have a feeling her and McKenna are gonna be dancing all over the place as soon as she is capable.

Cravings: Give me all the pumpkin! I swear to my husband that my “pregnancy cravings” aren’t exactly cravings. They really tend to be things that I love no matter what, not just when pregnant. This is really no exception. Have you ever tried cookie butter from Trader Joes? Did you know they make a seasonal pumpkin butter?! It’s even better. I’m in love.

Looking forward to: I’m looking forward to being moved into a new home (with a yard!!!) before this baby gets here. I’m feeling incredibly grateful that the sale of our house went so quick and happened so smoothly.

What McKenna says about the baby: Brandon and I have pretty well settled on a first name for this sweet little girl that is joining us in a few short months but McKenna refuses to call her by her name. She says “NO! She’s just my little sister.” We aren’t sure what she means by this but at least she’s consistent?

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Dear future baby girl,

I was so excited to find out that we are having another little girl. I have no doubt that you are going to have a BIG personality based on the way you move in my tummy and I’m interested to see those moves out here with us!

McKenna is so happy she is having a little sister and tells everyone that she comes in contact with about you and how you are going to be “hers”.  We are moving soon so that we can have a house with a yard for you and your sister and I look forward to holding you and loving on you in our new back yard.

Love, your future Mama

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Dear Future Baby….

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Dear Future Baby Girl!

I am so excited to know a little bit more about about you! I could’ve sworn that you were going to be a baby boy, but I’m so excited for another darling little girl. It’s nice to know so that I can do some planning. I held onto a few of McKenna’s old clothes but not enough! Luckily I was gifted all sorts of baby girl and baby boy clothes. Now I can get rid of half of those clothes!

The only thing that will be hard is coming up with a name that will fit you. Your daddy and I tend to disagree about girls names so we have a lot of work ahead of us here lol. You are already a vivacious little girl in my tummy – jumping and kicking around! Wish me luck in finding a name that your daddy likes! We love you so, so much and can’t wait to meet you!

Love, Your Mama