Symbols for Goals

Symbols for Goals

I used to set New Years Resolutions  (yes I’m aware it’s May) like a mad woman. I really meant business. But somewhere along the line it stopped working for me. So I stopped setting them. Makes sense, right?! I love goals and I love resolving to do something that improves my life. What I have done most recently is to set myself “goals” but for much shorter periods of time.

I honestly thought I would never set “New Years Resolutions” again. BUT I had a timely conversation with my mom right before 2016 ended. She shared with me her process for “setting goals”. It’s quite a bit different than what I have heard most people do. She chooses 4 symbols, one for each season of the year to focus on. Each symbol has meaning to her and she uses it to visualize those things she wants to create in her life.

I love this idea! I knew that I wanted to adapt it for myself though so here is what I did (in January  btw… even though I’m just sharing this now). Part of what I really love about this is that it allows the Universe to do it’s thang but let’s me have a focus for what I need right now.

Step One:

The process starts by thinking of all the words that you want for this year to be. Ever with the #moreismore attitude about life I created a pretty lengthy list. Here are just a few of the words I came up with:

Energy

Progress

Thrive

Balance

Peace

Accord

Good Vibes

Revitalized

Believe

Understand

Accept

Trust

Healing

Creation

Transformation

Step Two:

Then I began to look up symbols for those words. You don’t have to choose something that someone has already assigned meaning to but it helped me get started. I drew out a bunch of symbols and let myself tune out and tune in to what I need this year.

Step Three:

After I spent some time doodling symbols I was able to clearly see which ones I wanted to use for my year ahead. I took a plain piece of printer paper and created 4 quadrants to draw my symbols.

Step Four:

Lastly, I hung it up where I can see it everyday!

This process isn’t quite like setting New Years Resolutions I suppose, but that’s probably why it’s working for me at this point in my life. I’m excited to focus on just a few things that make a huge impact on everything else. I’m already starting to think about what those symbols (and the meanings behind them) mean to my life. I know that they mean a lot more when paired with actionable items. The more that I focus on those symbols the more that I can see clearly what I need to do for those things to manifest in my life. This feels like a much more natural way to setup my year for success. That paired with my natural desire to set goals all year long are working for me now!

Update:

My first season’s symbol was a sun, chosen to mean ENERGY for me. I have to say that I do think it’s worked to help me focus on things that I can do to improve my energy. Slowly I added new habits to help me with this. Here are some of the things I did:

  • Created a mantra that I use often “My body and mind are well rested and ready to rock this day!”
  • Focused on drinking more water every day
  • Joined a gym
  • Started using a fitbit again to track my steps
  • I made a concerted effort to focus on positive energy, instead of negative

New Symbol/Goal:

Now that the first quarter of 2017 is a bit in the past, I can say that using a symbol for my goal and having a finite time (the first three months of the year) really worked for me! This quarter (April-June) my focus is on Peace. Here are some of the things I will focus on throughout the quarter:

  • Thinking only positive thoughts – pushing out the negative
  • Allowing other people to have their wars, but not let them be mine
  • Creating peace in my home by continually decluttering
  • Teaching peace to my daughters through example
  • Yoga and meditation practice regularly
  • Sending peace to others through peaceful thoughts

I’m hoping this quarter goes as well as it did last quarter!

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Happy Mother’s Day

Almost 3 years ago exactly (thanks Facebook memories), I quit working to stay home with my then only child who was 1 year old. Many people expressed joy that I would be able to do this. Then there were others who wanted to “warn” me of how I would feel. Suffocated, bored, etc. These were just a few ways people told me that I would feel about being a stay at home mother (SAHM). I can 100% say at this point that they were/are wrong. For me, being home with my kids (now two of them) has been an amazing journey. It was absolutely the right choice for me and my family. I loved working and plan on going back at some point.

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 Right now I focus all of my time and energy on snuggling up my two girls tight while also:

  • Reading library book after library book
  • Playing “princess family”
  • Singing songs
  • Having dance parties to Trolls music
  • Teaching life lessons
  • Kissing boo boos.

And what don’t I do? I don’t ever feel suffocated or bored or whatever else they said I would feel.

As many people do in situations such as these, they simply want you to feel their pain. These people want– no, they desperately need to overlay their emotions and feelings onto your soul. It isn’t that they aren’t trying to drag you down. No, they simply don’t know how to express the pain they feel in their position. The best thing you can do is to not let their negative energy affect you while at the same time having sympathy for their pain. Everyone has different strengths and weaknesses. Let’s all do our best not to throw the worst part of ourselves at other people. Maybe instead we should focus on our best selves and share that loud and proud.

All of this to say that we should be lifting up our fellow mothers. Encouraging each to be who they are and do what is best for them. We all have different beliefs, strengths, desires and goals. Let’s help all the mamas out there to be who they want to be and do what they want to do.

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 Happy Mother’s day to every mother, pseudo mother, other mother, and woman who wants to be a mother. May you each enjoy this day and be buoyed up in the joy that is motherhood.

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