Don’t lose your medication. Then don’t ignore that you lost your medication for a week. Ha! Ok just kidding, that’s not my tip…. but seriously don’t do that. It’s not pretty if this happens. I’ve had a rough time since Drea was born but I had no idea how much worse it could possibly get until this happened last week. I didn’t think I could shed so many tears in so little time. I’m not quite ready to fully delve into my PPD issues right now but I know that something needs to change. I’m writing this post for anyone who has PPD but it’s really for me. Because it’s the story of my life right now. Let’s talk about self care!
So here’s the real tip: Take care of yourself !
Hooray for Self Care!
It is so incredibly important that we take care of ourselves. Self care is truly one of the most important aspects of our lives. Without it you risk not being able to take care of those you love. I know it’s hard, but do it. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant. I didn’t become a mother until I was almost 30 years old. Due to this fact, I had A LOT of time pre-baby where all I had to take care of was myself. I used to be incredible about self-care. I got massages regularly (weekly usually but at least twice a month). I went to get my nails done, hair done, ya know all that good stuff. I spent hours leisurely strolling through clothing stores looking for things that I might like to try on (even though I had way too many clothes). I took my sweet time getting ready to go out. Long showers, baths – whatever I wanted. Life isn’t exactly like that anymore. If you’re a mama to young ones right now I’m sure you understand. Just because I can’t spend as much time doesn’t mean that I can’t do something nice for myself.
Sometimes we need a little reminder that we can’t take care of others unless we are cared for. Our families depend on us to do so many things and it isn’t selfish to take care of yourself, it’s necessary. Ever get sick when you’ve been running yourself ragged? The universe knows that you need a break so it MAKES you take a break. We’ve all been there. Let’s be proactive and take care of ourselves!
Here are some easy self care items that I’ve been making an effort at lately:
- Spending a little extra time getting ready (remember makeup? 😉
- Painting my nails
- Exfoliating my feet
- Reading a book during nap instead of cleaning
- Going to exercise (I went to yoga last week for the first time in years!)
I can definitely do better in this realm which is why I’m posting here. The same as we advocate so strongly for our children we need to be advocates for ourselves. Ask for what we need or we won’t get it. I have the most amazingly intuitive and thoughtful husband. He generally sees what I need before I even realize what that thing is. Keep an open line of communication with the people that you love so that they can help you take care of yourself.
Remember – this stage isn’t forever. Thank God, right? Do your best, get through this. Take care of yourself, it’s an important part of healing.
Motherhood is a crazy thing. It runs the gamut of emotions and on the daily we move from one extreme to another (I mean our kids… but maybe us too!)
Sometimes it’s silly
Sometimes it’s exhausting
Sometimes it’s sweet
Sometimes it’s confused
Sometimes it’s grumpy
Sometimes it’s proud
Sometimes it’s irritable
Sometimes it’s content
Sometimes it’s messy
Sometimes it’s magical
None of these pics have been edited, because that’s life right now. But this is what my life has been lately and although it’s not perfect (not even close) it’s mine and I love it.
The longer I’m a mother (it’s only been a whopping 3 years and 3 months-ish) the more that I’m truly grateful to my mom. I wanted to include a pic of her with my girls but she would kill me if I did … sooooo I didn’t 🙂 Give your mothers and “other mothers” lots of love this weekend!
Thursdays are generally a pretty busy day for us over here. We have some of my nieces over every week and we have a lot of fun! Although it’s amazing it means that I don’t have oodles of time to post. Enter “Three for Thursday”. This series is going to be a day where I focus on a DIY topic that I’ve been meaning to give thought, time and energy to but simply haven’t scheduled that time in. Thursdays are that day now!
This week I’m thinking about what I can do to spend quality time with McKenna. She has been a super trooper since Drea was born (and even before that when I was miserable during the last 4 months of pregnancy). She has also started acting out a bit more. I told someone about a month ago that I had to put McKenna in time out for the first time. Overall, she has always been a good listener and does the things I ask. The most I ever had to do was count to 3. It’s a different story nowadays. People say it’s because she’s three years old now but I think it’s because she needs more attention. I do my very best to give her attention but when Drea is screaming her head off I have to admit that she comes first. SO, all that to say that I started trolling my Pins for a few things that McKenna would enjoy. As I was going through stuff I had pinned to do with her I found a few themes that she enjoys which I think is perfect! Without further adieu here are our Three for Thursday!
Dinosaur Hat / Dinosaur Feet
McKenna adores dinosaurs! She also loves crafting (really any DIY) with her mama and pretend play so I figured let’s kill two (errrr three I guess?) birds with one stone! We are gonna have a DIY dinosaur day next week! I may even see if I can put a couple of dinosaur books on hold at the library to round it out.
Gardening Sensory Bin / Gardening Sensory Bin (with printable!)
Lately McKenna has been obsessed with gardening. I got a gardenia plant for my birthday a few months ago and she helps me to water it every. single. day. I guess it’s good because I’m a pretty forgetful person and she often reminds me! Maybe she will be my little DIY gardener. I found a couple of interesting gardening sensory bins we could easily DIY and I figure we’ve been wanting to do more sensory bins so this will be on the agenda next week!
Mermaid Tail / Mermaid Peg Dolls
Even though she skips through big chunks of The Little Mermaid it may be one of her favorite movies. She loves the idea of mermaids as they seem so magical to her. There are so many fun mermaid DIY activities! The first picture above is an activity that I have been wanting to do for her for almost a year. A year people! I can’t believe I’ve let it get away from me for this long. The mermaid peg dolls I found recently in a search for a mermaid sensory bin. I wanted inexpensive mermaids that we could add. It was a bonus that we could work on designing them together.
Life isn’t about pinning. It’s about doing. Pin less, Do more! I will share more after we’ve completed these activities! What are you going to do this fabulous Thursday?
I should know by now that of all people I should never say never! I truly change my mind about things ALL the time. Do you remember back when I said that I wasn’t planning on putting McKenna in preschool? Here’s the thing… I had decided that I wasn’t going to based on a few things, which you can read about here. Since then a couple of things have changed. The biggest is the addition of our sweet Drea to our family. I now know that I may have been a bit naive about what I could handle as far as teaching McKenna with another little vying for my attention.
If you recall I stated previously that I believe there are 3 reasons to put a child in Preschool:
- It helps children to learn their basics ahead of the game (obviously).
- It teaches children how to be in social situations.
- It creates a setting early on for how to listen to directions, especially to someone other than the child’s parents.
A couple of things have changed for us in regards to these three areas. I’m still not concerned about McKenna’s learning skills. She is a fantastic learner and knows things I often don’t even realize. For instance, about a week ago she came to me telling me that her right leg got hurt. I was bewildered because I didn’t teach her left and right yet. I thought maybe she was just guessing but I tested her then and nearly every day I test her and she knows. I am amazed by her ability each and every day. BUT she has stopped actively working with me to learn new things. I believe it may be due to the fact that she gets less attention so when she is getting my full attention there are so many other things she wants to do with me.
In regards to being in social situations and listening to directions she has had additional opportunities (she is now in swim class and tumbling) to improve these skills but unfortunately her listening and direction following has declined. It seems to be that she is acting out in this area because she isn’t always getting my attention. Simply put, she needs more attention than I can give her and needs mental stimulation in the amounts that I used to be able to provide.
Once the decision was made I quickly went into searching for a viable option. I knew that I wanted a smaller environment so I setup to look at three different home preschools. It almost felt like a Goldilocks and the Three Bears situation. The first was super structured and they only had 2 kids (with a max capacity of 3) in the class. As much as I appreciated that I knew McKenna would get plenty of attention and learning in that environment it seemed more strict than I wanted for her. The second preschool that I went to had a ratio of waaaay too many kiddos to one adult. It was chaotic and due to the amount of children I wondered how much they were actually able to sit down and learn together. I had almost given up but went to check out the last preschool. I audibly sighed in relief when I walked in. It felt absolutely perfect. There were quite a few kids there but they had two teachers. The children were very well behaved, even though it was free play time. I knew that this was the one for us. She won’t start until the Fall but we are also participating in a loose preschool co-op for the summer which will be perfect for the time being and she talks about going to school ALL the time. Based on her excitement alone I know I made the right choice! At least until I change my mind again 😉
I absolutely agree with Joe on this one! If your dreams/goals aren’t big enough to just scare you a bit then you aren’t doing it right. But even more important than pulling you from your comfort zone is to be ecstatic about working towards those goals. What is the point of having a goal if not for this purpose?
Downloads: 5X7 printable 8.5×11 printable 8×10 printable
I created three different sizes for this printable. The 5×7 and the 8×10 are standard frame sizes in case you want to frame this. OR if you would like to have the printable take up the entire page you can print it as 8.5×11. If you do the 5×7 or 8×10 size you will need to trim the printable down in size after you’ve printed it. I recommend printing this on a heavy weight card stock for best results.
Enjoy your Monday!
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In general I love goals and resolutions. I know I used to set them at the new year when I was a kid and teenager but it’s been a long time since I’ve done that. Don’t get me wrong, I still have goals that I’m working on. I just don’t set them on January 1st. I set them as I finish another goal. Or I set them when life changes and my goals need to change with it. I wouldn’t get anywhere if I only set goals at the beginning of a new year. Also, I used to get super crazy when I didn’t reach a goal. I need flexibility to get to where I really want to be. When I was younger I had ideas of how things should be. How I should be. If it didn’t go exactly the way I planned I felt like a failure. The honest truth is that things turned out even better when I let life take over.
I have seen a lot of people talk about setting a word or mantra to guide their year these past few years. I quite like that…. Except that I have been a big ‘ol mombie for the last few months since Drea was born. I’m going to see if a word or mantra comes to me down the road but for now, here’s to May resolutions! I will go more into how I set goals and methods I’ve tried that have worked (and a few that haven’t) another time. But for now, here are my goals:
Choose healthy over lazy:
- Get to the gym (that I just joined!) 3 times a week.
- Eat veggies every time I eat anything else.
- Have a filled glass of water with me at all times.
Get back to blogging:
- Take time to free write 5 times a week.
- Organize blog post ideas
- Work on Photo shop skills 2 times a week.
Work on organization:
- Clear out all of my clothes that I don’t love.
- Pare down kitchen items to only those I love.
- Clean out pantry and only keep items we will eat.
For me, I can’t have too many goals at one time. If I do then I don’t end up accomplishing any of them. That’s also a part of why I set goals all year long. I LOVE to have something to strive towards and when I break down my goals into mini actionable items it makes it even easier for me. I’m excited to finally be at the start of feeling like an actual human being again. It’s been a really long year for me. Pregnancy wasn’t kind to me this last go around and I barely slept during most of it. That lead right into a new baby and I think we all know how that goes. It’s still not over, but it’s getting better and for that I’m truly grateful. It’s amazing how even just one good night of sleep gives you a more positive outlook on life.